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A Fond Farewell

Five days ago, I heard a quote in passing that I immediately jotted in my journal because it left such a strong impression on me:

"Rather than make your presence known, make your absence felt."

Yesterday I got word that my neighbor is moving out of state and, instantly, I understood the essence of what that quotation means.

Nan's absence on Harvestwood Court will be felt.

Like the rest of us, Nan is busy. She is the mother of three, has a husband who travels, and keeps the kind of schedule you would expect from a beloved pillar of our Grapevine community.

Still, Nan honks a quick "hello" as she passes by in her car,

generously welcomes new neighbors with baked goods,

Tosses newspapers on doorsteps,

checks mail when you are out of town,

initiates occasional street-wide festivities,

and always, ALWAYS has a big smile and a kind word to share.

Already I am remorseful that Nan and I didn't figure out how to spend more time together; that I didn't demand she make time for me, so I could learn from, and be inspired by, this woman who so clearly Shines. But that's me wanting to make my presence known.

Instead, Nan will quietly move to Tennessee, leaving behind a group of neighbors who are unsure why everything seems so different. The block will suddenly get more quiet, neighbors will socialize a little less, and the buzz of Nan's enthusiasm will eventually fade from our street.

Nan's busy schedule is such that her presence on our block is not known daily, but

her spirit is such that, daily, Nan's absence will be felt.

Shining off until...

 

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    Posted @ 3/1/2012 6:23 AM by Robin
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    Some of my dearest friends live out of town! Don't hesitate to reach out - remember we live in an era where it is quite easy to stay in touch if we do it!

    Posted @ 3/1/2012 7:58 AM by Peggy
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    Claudia, what a nice testimonial you wrote for your friend. This is a silly question, but aren't you guys moving too?Just think how sad the rest of your block is going to feel!

    I agree whole heartedly with Robin!!! In the old days you had to find a piece of paper(stationary) and write cursive on it... get an envelope and stamp.....wait days, then they may or may not write back....ha ha....it is so much easier to stay in touch if you want to.

    Posted @ 3/1/2012 7:59 AM by Cheryl is stuck in an airport :)
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    I am so grateful to live in a time when the Internet and phones keep us connected. Chris' best friend is also moving out of state and he and his wife are going to be missed so much. Good luck nan! There are some very lucky people in TN getting a wonderful new neighbor and friend.

    Posted @ 3/1/2012 8:19 AM by Claudia
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    The internet will go a long way in helping us stay in touch, true.

    Unexpectedly passing each other while coming and going and informal interactions on our front porches are among the things I will miss most. Nan is the kind of person that almost instantaneously makes you feel good. What a gift.

    And yes, Peggy, we are also just days away from moving. Change is in the air.

    Posted @ 3/1/2012 10:14 AM by Heather
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    I'll miss Nan! We had a little reunion of sorts at Starbucks not long ago...Misty happened in as well and it was great to catch up with both of them. Thankful for Facebook for staying connected to friends from afar.

    I'll miss the Beeny crew too...I know you aren't moving far but the chance meeting at Parr park, quick zip down the street for some Lily/Jack playtime are things I will miss about having you nearby.

    If anything this is an important lesson in MAKING the time to create the connection when those easy interactions have to go away for whatever reason.

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