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A Lunch Worth Remembering

You have heard me use the phrase before: "More than fill your present space." I heard it long ago, but the idea has stuck with me, perhaps because it perfectly embodies the spirit of Shine.

More than filling your present space can be applied to virtually any situation - big or small.  At work you can more than fill your present space by taking initiative to develop new systems or by solving problems that the organization didn't know it had. At home, more than filling your present space might mean making the entire kitchen spotless instead of just loading the dish washer. And, on your block, more than filling your present space might mean not just politely waving at your neighbor as you pass to and from work. It might mean hand delivering half of your freshly baked chocolate chip cookies or hosting a holiday gathering at your home.

When someone more than fills their present space it is almost immediately obvious to everyone around them.

Yesterday I went to lunch with Kim, an old friend, along with two other women she knows.  The three of us had never met, but Kim brought us together because she thought we would enjoy each other's company. One of those women more than filled her present space and it changed the entire tone of our lunch.

She brought something with her - an interesting book that immediately created common ground and sparked interesting conversation among the four of us.

Time flew while we spent our lunch hour engrossed in conversation - the same way old friends immediately connect when they are reunited.

The rest of us did what most people do - show up believing that just keeping the commitment and being on time is sufficient enough. 

And it is.

Unless you want to Shine.  Then you do what this woman did - come prepared with a fun tool that facilitated our getting to know one another.

By more than filling her present space, this woman very obviously turned our simple lunch into a memorable occasion.

A small example of how simple it is to Shine. So how about you? What do you have on your docket today and how might you more than fill your present space?

Shining off until... 

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    Posted @ 11/8/2011 9:44 PM by Robin
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    Now my curiosity asks, What book? :-)

    Posted @ 11/9/2011 6:45 AM by Heather
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    I'm probably a slacker in regards to taking intiative like this woman did. I feel like I try to take initiative in community building but do not always do a fantastic job.

    I feel like I'm hitting a dip and need to find a way to force myself to SHINE. Looks like I'll be taking Random Acts of Kindness week to heart as I spread SHINE so I can feel shiny too!

    Posted @ 11/9/2011 2:04 PM by Claudia
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    Hmmm....

    My dilemma is this... if I tell you the title, you will fixate on the book as the reason our lunch went so well.

    Really it could have been the dictionary. The point was that this woman thought ahead. Rather than just showing up at our lunch, she thought ahead about what might make our lunch extra fun or memorable and she came prepared to spread shine (shine principle #10).

    Maybe before day's end I will give in and share the title. Maybe.

    Posted @ 11/9/2011 3:29 PM by peggy
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    You finally had lunch with Maria and her book " Who is YOUR daddy" Life with Arnold!!

    Posted @ 11/9/2011 9:31 PM by chaotickristi
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    i filled my spcae by going above and beyond in class today (helping other student) and at work (staying to put out backstock when everyone else left early)

    Posted @ 11/10/2011 7:22 AM by chaotickristi
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    keeping with my theme of oneness...
    here is a meditation you can participate in with others the world over ... they are doing at 11:11am PST, or 1:11pm CST....

    http://www.evolutionaryleaders.net/11-1-11
    or, the text of it is::
    11-1-11 Meditation Intention:
    Our intention is to transcend superficial differences that divide us – race, religion, politics, beliefs, culture – to acknowledge, experience and honor the essential bond that unites us all as one interdependent organism. We also intend to evolve in both consciousness and action so that each of us learns to perceive the whole, relate to others in wholeness, widen our definition of ‘we’ to be all inclusive and become evolutionary leaders for a peaceful, holistic, sustainable world.

    Posted @ 11/10/2011 9:48 AM by Cheryl
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    Oy! Life has been busy in my camp. Good busy. :)

    I probably do not fill my space as Kim's friend did for your lunch. I would have just shown up with a smile on my face but with nothing in hand to create a bond between us. I'm also curious about what the book. Share! Share!

    I think it takes a special person to do this. A person with a certain personality. You meet people in your life that have the gift of making friends. I think that I'm a generally likeable person but I don't own this gift. But, I have friend that no matter where she goes, or who she meets, she is immediately everyones friend and she can create a lifelong connection with anyone and everyone she meets. It's a gift and I love to witness it unfold infront of me. I need to call her.



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