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Do It Like You Mean It

Each morning that I have walked into Starbucks, over the past week, I have noticed a fairly large and modestly decorated cardboard box on the floor. It sits next to three display baskets, stocked with Starbucks coffee beans and other products that are for sale.

Printed along one side of the box is a handwritten message inviting customers to donate old blankets and towels to a local animal shelter.

Noble cause.

High traffic area

Reasonable request

So why, with hundreds of customers passing through the store each day, are there still only three towels sitting at the base of this cavernous box?

I think the reason is because Starbucks, like so many of us, confuse the act of doing something with the act of doing it like you mean it.

But don't think I am bashing Starbucks.  I'm not.

I am simply using Starbucks as an example.  We all have poorly placed, easily ignored cardboard boxes in our lives.  Don't we? These are the commitments we make, but that we tuck in the corner, hoping by some miracle, that the box will fill itself. Coordinate a class project, participate in a local organization, learn a new sport, take on a new work opportunity, or your commitment to the Year Of...

We make room for these cardboard boxes because, in theory, they sound like great ideas. Who, after all, would argue that philanthropy is anything but good? Yet, done half heartedly the empty donation box can begin feeling like clutter in an already crowded space. Many weeks, the commitments in my calendar feel the same - like clutter in an already crowded space.

Maybe the question that we, along with Starbucks, should ask ourselves is this: What kind of time and effort will it take to fill this box like you mean it and not have it feel like clutter in an already crowded space? And, if filling it requires more time and effort than you are able to give, then respectfully allow someone else to collect towels for the animal shelter. That way you can focus on making and selling coffee.

Visit us in the comment section and tell us about one of the empty boxes creating clutter in your life.

Shining off until tomorrow...

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    Posted @ 4/12/2011 7:30 AM by peggy
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    Unfortunately, mine is a FULL box of whine that I need to get rid of! :0)

    Posted @ 4/12/2011 7:38 AM by P
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    Today's post really struck me in such a positive way. I can think of so many connections to this post in my life and the world around me. A student leadership group I work with is struggling with this very concept. They want to do good...however they are guarded with their time and find ways in which they can do minimal work/committment to the process.
    In my own life...I struggle with balance between healthy eating and exercise. I want to do it, but am I just putting a box in the corner or fully committing to it? I know the answer and I know what I need to do. This morning (before reading this) I made the choice to commit. I was late to work because I did not prepare the night before, however today I ate a balanced breakfast, and will have a healthy lunch and snack to eat without going out to eat.

    Posted @ 4/12/2011 8:18 AM by Cheryl
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    What kind of time and effort will it take to fill this box like you mean it and not have it feel like clutter in an already crowded space?

    I've been sitting here staring at the screen for several minutes....I had to copy and paste the question so I could focus on what the question is... What is my box? What commitments am I not fulfilling?

    Work, Family, Friends, Art, Blogging, taking care of my home, taking care of myself, the year of love.... I like to think that I don't over commit and I'm pretty good at keeping my commitments. Even those to myself. I recognize that if I gave up painting or blogging or stopped searching for love I would have more time to clean my house, exercise more, visit my family more but then I would have a hole in the creative part of me....

    This is a hard question for me. I know I'm not perfect- there has to be something that I could give up to commit more to something else! :) I'm a big procrastinator at times. Sometimes I just want to be lazy and listen to music or watch a movie or watch the Masters- but that's not the same thing.... I look forward to reading your repsonses and feel free to slap me with the truth if you know something I need to fix!

    Posted @ 4/12/2011 9:21 AM by Claudia
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    Actually, Cheryl. You are one of the best I know at minimizing the number of empty boxes in your life.

    My observation is that you are good at it because you have a healthy sense of boundaries. I am not sure, but I might go one step further and suggest your ability to set boundaries is connected to your healthy sense of self. You don't worry about disappointing people by saying, "no" or by not participating. Instead, you focus on all the quality contributions you make as a result of only "filling boxes like you mean it!"

    I could take a page... chapter out of your book.

    Posted @ 4/12/2011 12:38 PM by Heather
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    I am LEARNING to say no...or at least to place LIMITS on my involvement (as evidenced by our last filming that I rushed off after). I realize that my time has value and not just when I'm at work and being paid for those hours. Actually my free time and how I choose to spend it is more valuable in my mind.
    I DO need to continue to work on saying NO when it comes to work related opportunities. I see the extra task as an opportunity and need to really think through the implication it will have on my time and whether I will be able to give the box the attention it needs and deserves.

    I have so much work to do on this issue!

    Posted @ 4/12/2011 1:04 PM by Cheryl
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    Ah, thanks! :)

    I think I've maybe let people down in the past and don't like disappointing people.

    I don't know if this is on topic or not but people not doing a good job has caused me not to ask others for help... Just throwing that out there!

    Posted @ 4/12/2011 1:22 PM by Claudia
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    Yes, Heather you are getting better at it and I thought that your asking to head out early was a moment of SHINE for you.

    I love that I know when the women from House of Shine are together it is because we want to be and not because we feel obligated. It is one of the reasons our time together feels positive.

    Nothing will make you learn to value your free time faster than balancing work and young children. Teenagers, not so much. By the time we they are teenagers, you're looking for an occasional break from them!

    Posted @ 4/12/2011 3:27 PM by katpo
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    Wow. That's all -- just wow. I really have to think about this one for a while. It has the potential to spark some necessary changes in my life.

    Posted @ 4/12/2011 6:40 PM by Heather
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    Katpo!!! Glad to see you back!

    Posted @ 4/12/2011 6:41 PM by Karlie
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    Oh my word, I spent a couple hours after work going through cardboard boxes and eliminating, shredding and organizing for the next walk event. This is such a poignant post Claudia and truly impacts everyday choices. I still have a lot more to get through but I feel better for having gone through things and then reading your post at the end of the day as opposed to 5am. Thank you1

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